tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post67661212094385380..comments2024-03-06T14:38:23.226-08:00Comments on And then she recovered.......: V is for Voyeurism!Ruby Tuesdayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-67660065277911418662016-04-26T19:43:32.602-07:002016-04-26T19:43:32.602-07:00This reminds me a bit of a lady who contacted me s...This reminds me a bit of a lady who contacted me several years ago after finding my blog--she worked for some university and claimed she wanted to do a "study" with regard to eating disorder-related blogs. I don't trust anyone ( working for lawyers will do that), so I questioned her like crazy about her study. While she wouldn't come out and say it, she was definitely only interested in "pro ana" blogs. She wanted to use my blog as an example, and I flat out refused to let my blog be called pro ana. She ended up dropping me from her "study" entirely. The end result--the paper she and her colleagues published--was so full of ridiculous ED stereotypes I felt nauseous reading it. Michhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456803425068822920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-62033470898641324432016-04-26T15:47:32.349-07:002016-04-26T15:47:32.349-07:00That's sick, especially them asking for more r...That's sick, especially them asking for more revealing photos. I think that's why I like blogs. Yes, there are sometimes a lot of numbers, but overall it's a more balanced view of life with an ED than other types of media, who seem to only care about shock factor. <br /><br />There is something (a lot of things) about this that just doesn't sit right with me. I get that you want to raise awareness, but is this really the right way to do it, and the right image you want to put out there about EDs?<br /><br />xxxxBellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07544398450025713725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-27815170498115785212016-04-26T14:09:21.455-07:002016-04-26T14:09:21.455-07:00Good point EM
As ever
You are the voice of reason ...Good point EM<br />As ever<br />You are the voice of reason xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-37859329652095516022016-04-26T13:52:13.187-07:002016-04-26T13:52:13.187-07:00If you don't do it, you might be able to do it...If you don't do it, you might be able to do it later if you change your mind. <br /><br />If you do it, you won't be able to undo it.Elliptical Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02516754757484718622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-36408434835365396052016-04-26T12:30:25.672-07:002016-04-26T12:30:25.672-07:00Very true Mich
I think now that I am not going to ...Very true Mich<br />I think now that I am not going to continue with this company<br />And am going to tell them exactly why<br />Maybe they could rethink their story xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-64398456883698774932016-04-26T12:03:42.451-07:002016-04-26T12:03:42.451-07:00I agree with everyone else. There are enough image...I agree with everyone else. There are enough images floating around out there of frighteningly skinny girls, and so many of those pictures end up as "thinspo" rather than an encouragement to get better. Also agree with the others about not keeping up the stereotype that only someone emaciated can be called anorexic. <br /><br />xoxoMichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456803425068822920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-62759888624356687962016-04-26T11:53:02.754-07:002016-04-26T11:53:02.754-07:00This is true Agnes
It's sensationalism really ...This is true Agnes<br />It's sensationalism really <br />They want shocking photos<br />Everyone loves a before and after<br />I have photos of me in my underwear very underweight<br />But they are personal<br />Not for the world to gasp over<br /><br />Thanks Agnes<br />You make a lot of sense xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-69546229203565078322016-04-26T11:11:03.389-07:002016-04-26T11:11:03.389-07:00To me it feels all kinds of wrong, personally. I h...To me it feels all kinds of wrong, personally. I hate those stories in the media, you know, this person got down to xxlbs and NEARLY DIED but they GOT BETTER, now look at photos of them all happy and healthy and better! Yes, ok, those stories are good and positive and all, but I don't feel they spread awareness in the fact that it's quite a narrow view. I didn't realise I had a problem for a long time because I didn't fit the media stereotype. I not saying that's not what ED sufferers experience because some do, but not everyone. I was more sick when I was bulimic (and a healthy weight) than I was during my anorexic phases.<br /><br />The photos you have are personal to you, and you don't have to share them if you don't want to. I think you should talk to Mary and your family and ask for advice, but at the end of the day it's your choice.<br /><br />You're not a freak or a fairground attraction though. You are a person. There's more to you than your ED.<br /><br />xxxAgneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07325271250034796599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-59077054305115047272016-04-26T11:04:53.860-07:002016-04-26T11:04:53.860-07:00Don't worry Jo
I'm now thinking that I won...Don't worry Jo<br />I'm now thinking that I won't do it xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-83397566940980454002016-04-26T11:04:24.405-07:002016-04-26T11:04:24.405-07:00Thank you anon
I appreciate your well wishes xThank you anon<br />I appreciate your well wishes xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-52319214036479874652016-04-26T11:03:52.904-07:002016-04-26T11:03:52.904-07:00Thanks Julia
I agree with you
I do need to let go...Thanks Julia<br />I agree with you <br />I do need to let go of this ED identity<br />I am now so much more than my ED<br />And I need to keep that going xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-78015007670769629392016-04-26T11:01:39.141-07:002016-04-26T11:01:39.141-07:00You make some really good points
And it's som...You make some really good points <br />And it's something that I've though about too<br />I mean it seems like the photos I did send them were not shocking enough <br />And that is really sad<br />You are so right though <br />And I am already thinking that I won't do this<br /><br />thank you xRuby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-54506804502602201452016-04-26T10:26:40.091-07:002016-04-26T10:26:40.091-07:00^ i agree with this comment by "Julia" a...^ i agree with this comment by "Julia" about needing to develop your own identity. You still need to recover properly, and part of that is letting go of the ED, ED recovered, ED-whatevered identity. Let go of the media, and get better for yourself. <br />& well done for how far you have come.<br />Love, and wanting the best for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-11601254186490943422016-04-26T10:15:53.338-07:002016-04-26T10:15:53.338-07:00no please don't xjono please don't xjoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-72862924532225659362016-04-26T10:11:32.180-07:002016-04-26T10:11:32.180-07:00"the kind of image that is already well-known..."the kind of image that is already well-known." YES!<br /> If you want to raise awareness, send them an image from when you were a really healthy weight in the summer and try to get the message across that you were sick then too. That is the bit that nobody understands" YES YES and YES!<br /><br />To be a surviver is part of your identity, but the ED must be let go off, the more you do/learn/experience outside the ever present ED/drug history of yours, the less will it matter for your identity. you matter, ruby not the illness, not how skinny you were/are/can be. what made you want to get better, that is you... you raise awareness of the right aspects here on this blog, and there is more than enough 'awareness' of the 'super skinny suffering woman' already, the images just serve as a 'car crash to watch secretly' to people these days.<br /><br />And so much respect for getting back onto that horse! THAT is RUBY. Let go of the ED identity, it is worth it, so much more of you will have space to grow then! xxxJulianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-44788603730197861082016-04-26T09:40:53.459-07:002016-04-26T09:40:53.459-07:00gut-churningly no please don't do this. It do...gut-churningly no please don't do this. It doesn't help, it gives a very one-sided image of the condition, the kind of image that is already well-known. If you want to raise awareness, send them an image from when you were a really healthy weight in the summer and try to get the message across that you were sick then too. That is the bit that nobody understands. The world has seen plenty of before and after shots of underweight girls, it doesn't need any more of those, and they perpetuate a stereotype, and the idea that you are not really sick if you don't look like that... It can be triggering for sick people, can cultivate the mindset in medics that is already too common, as if weight gain were enough, and it really doesn't do anything for anyone else except, perhaps, as you say, foster voyeurism... It is not appropriate. Please don't do it.<br />Well, that is what I think - you do what you think, of course XAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-69850214415604090152016-04-26T09:14:56.848-07:002016-04-26T09:14:56.848-07:00I genuinely don't know what to do
My gut is te...I genuinely don't know what to do<br />My gut is telling me not to<br />But another part of me wants to do it<br />I guess I will talk to Mary about it when I see her Thursday Ruby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15078080281794429051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6562281218287648674.post-42802108189184210952016-04-26T05:18:20.159-07:002016-04-26T05:18:20.159-07:00dont do it, its not your responsibility to raise a...dont do it, its not your responsibility to raise awareness you do it well enough through your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com