Romans
Country men
Hello also to my haters
Who even though have a huge problem with me
Still take the time to read and comment
And generally put a lot of time and effort in to trying to upset me
Funny that....
Anyway
You might have noticed
That I didn't post yesterday
Unusual for me
But I just had to take 24 hours away from blogger
After the nastiness that ensued on Thursday
I swear it makes no sense
People
Usually anonymous writers
Have a go at me
And when I defend myself
I'm accused of not being able to deal with constructive criticism
I just can't win
No matter what I do
And I know, I know
I shouldn't feed the trolls
I just couldn't help myself though
My defenses go straight up
And it's hard not to react
I know I'm making light of it here now
But I really felt attacked
Not just me
But my life
My actions
My lack of action
My family
I really thought hard about how much I am putting out there
And was almost at the point where I wanted to stop writing
But
As with a lot of things
Time passes
And things settle down
They always do
For every negative commenter
There are 100 positive ones
Just like the emails I got this morning
They override any bit of nastiness
In other business
I have some really exciting news to share with you
I was in my local shop the other day
I always read the notice board there
Ads
Jobs
Things for sale
When something caught my eye
A charity called St. Vincent de Paul had some jobs available
I read through the notice
A part time position
18 -24 hours per week
Working in their assisted living accommodation
It's like a nursing home
Except the residents are quite well
And can mange mostly on their own with a little help from staff
The duties involve companionship of the residents
Light house work
And catering duties
The minute I read it through I got excited
It's exactly what I want
Part time
No pressure
No stress
I took a photo copy of the notice
And headed home
The minute I got home
I went to a quiet room
And phoned the number
I got through to a very pleasant lady
Who told me all about the job
The closing date for application is next Wednesday
So she said I could pop in today to get an application form
Which I did this morning
The house itself is lovely and calm
With classical music playing
And a lovely serene feeling
I spoke to one of the girls working there
Collected my application
And went on my way
I looked over the application just now
It's very straight forward
And I think with some help
I can make a good case for myself
I have a variety of work experience
From dance teacher to bank worker
I also have experience working with the elderly
As I helped a lot with my grandad when he was alive
I also help my elderly neighbour
I walk her dog
Do shopping and errands for her
And help her with day to day things during the week
So I'm hoping I have a good shot at this job
I just feel excited when I think about it
To be part of the working world
To have an occupation
And one that really helps people
The work is evenings
So it wouldn't effect my daily routine with Honey and Lea
It seems like it would fit so well in to my life
God I hope I'm not getting my hopes up too much
My sister is great
She's helping me sell myself
And really put my best foot forward
She says that I can say I am a free lance writer at the moment
And I guess I can say that
As I have been published a few times recently
Play to your strengths and all that
It's also motivation to stay well and healthy
God knows I won't be able to hold down a job if I am underweight and ill
So you guys
I'm really going to go for it
And give it my best shot
I just have a feeling that this is meant for me
You know?
Anyway
Wish me luck
And as ever
I will keep you posted.....
ohh this is so fabulous! CONGRATULATIONS on making this move it is so hard! so proud! they will be happy to have you! BTW I left a long comment on your last post hope I did not say anything wrong, please let me know if it was ok?
ReplyDeleteIt seems everything is getting better for both of us! well done Ruby!!!
xxx
Thank you Josefine so much
DeleteAnd yes
I did see your comment
I am so freakin proud of you girl
You clean
Off methadone
And life on your your terms
So well done to you
And I am so glad that my blog helped you
That is exactly why I write
Now you are free
To work
To study
To travel
To love
To do anything you want
I am so excited for you Hun
I really mean that
And your comment came right at a time when I was feeling so low
So thank you for helping to cheer me up
Do keep in touch
And let me know what you get up to
I am so looking forward to reading about your adventures
If you wNt to email me
I am at
Andthenshedisappeared@yahoo.ie
I'd love to hear from you
Take care
And go get em!!! X
and you go get THEM! So proud that you applied! you did the most important thing now, the first step!!!
DeleteRuby I hope someone of your nasty anons reads this; it would have been so easy for you to lie and fake some kind of occupation or being silent about the methadone here, but your are open and honest! and precisely THIS helped me a lot. (we started reducing it earlier last autumn/winter, had some other meds first but the new doctor was really into a fast process, he also consulted an anaesthetist. But its early days, and i better not tell you all the nasty stuff that came with it...)
But to all the anons: whatever Ruby does or does not she is HONEST about what mental illness ED and addiction do to people! You cannot simply decide to go out meet people and work, like you are so scared and so f'd up - you had a successful days when you survived. and if she would not have told it like it is, she would have never helped me the way she did!!
take care, ruby, good luck and i might shoot you an email soon
xxxxx
Aw thank you so much Josefine
DeleteYour words mean so much
And really solidify in my mind who I blog and write the way I do
It just goes to show
Once we are determined and focused
We can put our minds to anything
I feel super proud of you Hun
And you inspire me to go get em too
Your energy and spirit shine out of your words today
And that is awe inspiring
Do keep in touch
I'd love to know what you get up to
Love
Laugh
Live your dreams
You deserve a beautiful life x
Absolutely agreed... Your honesty was refreshing. There is no need to be ashamed of your struggles. If you hadn't of been honest, I would have thought I was totally alone in my addiction.. Many people have ED's, some even aspire to, I was relieved to know that I wasn't alone, it saddened me, but I finally had someone who was fighting alongside me. I applaud you and thank you for your honesty. I haven't read that post yet, and I'm kind of afraid to, bc I might just have to go all gung ho on those haters! And it seems to have blown over now, so I don't want to drag anything back up.. but I want you to know that I'm another person that your writing and story and honesty has touched. I think about you often, even when I'm not around on blogger.. So thank you. You are an inspiration to me x
DeleteGreetings!
ReplyDeleteLook at the bright side of things! Those criticisms did jolt you into doing something good. :) I personally believe that achieving entails both positive and negative reinforcements.
I wish you well in your endeavors!
Thank you Tanya
DeleteI appreciate your well wishes
And yes
I guess you are right
It does take both negative and positive feedback to achieve x
Slowly getting off Blogger and the virtual world in general might be a good idea. Perhaps it will make you focus more in building your new life in the real world. When I was recovering from anorexia years ago I did the same. Staying away from the Internet made me focus more on getting better, mending broken relationships especiallu with myself and forming new ones. And so I also matured due to the experiences I found unusual for me. However I kept a personal journal where I vent out almost every other day. Absolutely therapeutic!
ReplyDeleteHi Claire,
DeleteI think you make a good point
The virtual world is not substitute for real life
It can be addictional support
But we need more than that as human beings
I know I need to build a real life for myself
With relationships and occupations
I'm hoping this job will work out
And I start to reintegrate myself back in to society
It's both thrilling and terrifying
But super exciting
Thanks for your comment x
Congrats, and good luck!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Hun x
DeleteAnd remember the best advice I ever heard from Game of Thrones: if you waste your time trying to get everyone to love you, you'll end up the most popular dead man in town. There will always be those who try to tear you down. That is the time to lean on those who support you and lift you up. As long as we always lift each other, we will not fall to the ground when we need to lean on someone.
DeleteGo for it Ruby. It will be great!
ReplyDeleteI hope so Shelby
DeleteI really hope so x
That's so exciting!! Sending you all the luck!
ReplyDeleteSo proud of you!
That's so exciting!! Sending you all the luck!
ReplyDeleteSo proud of you!
Thank you Hun
DeleteI appreciate it
Hope you are doing ok x
Sounds like a great job for you, hope you get it <3
ReplyDeleteLove,
Christie
Hey! Guess what! My very first job ever was in an assisted living facility, doing pretty much the same thing as what you described! It was so awesome, I still have great memories of working there. And still friend with a few of my co-workers to this day! The residents were very sweet, and it felt like I had tons of Grandmas and Grandpas all of a sudden (which was nice as all but one of my actual grandparents had passed away, and my living grandma was 2000 miles away). I really hope you get it!!!! Fingers crossed.
ReplyDeleteAnd as for the haters... well.... chuck it in the f*ck it bucket. You can't please everyone (no one can!) but definitely the people who love and value you outnumber the people who don't. I've received some exceedingly hateful comments on my blog before. But I've received waaaaay more nice comments than that. So I try to keep it in perspective....
xoxoxoxo