The skinny of it

LIf we look back at weight over the years

And what was considered attractive

Like fashion

It goes through trends

Back in the 60's

Curves and shapes were very much in

Marilyn Monroe who was and still is considered one of the worlds most attractive women

Was a beautiful size 14

Then in the 90's

The rise of the super model took over

And models like Kate Moss 

Made heroin chic sexy

All over the run ways and magazines

Thin was in

Women flaunted their bones like trophies

Sharp cheek bones

And chiseled features were the flavour of the month

And then of course the phenomenon that is size zero

Became an international obsession

The skinnier the better

And that is still popular

But I think positive body image is something that is so important

I saw a show during the week 

Called Plus Sized Wars

It was about the rise and increased popularity of plus size models

Especially on the Internet

Girls like the model and blogger Tess Munster

Who is a size 24

And has a massive following on line

It's people like Tess

Who are bucking the trend of super skinny

And empowering women of all sizes to be proud and confident in their skin

Tess really is a beautiful looking girl

And I can see why she is in such high demand

And even though she is three times the size of an average model

She is still smokin' hit

She also sending out a positive message to young people

That beauty is not a clothes size

Or a number on a scale

It is so much more than that

This show was an eye opener for me

As I am one of the peoe who has been influenced by the media

And although the media did not cause my ED

It most definitely did not help

I used to look at photos of models

Long and lithe limbs

Flawless faces

An impossible standard to reach

But I still compared myself to them

And my confidence took a real battering

 

My own perception of what is attractive has also changed

I used to favour skinny 

The thinner the better

And there was no such thing as too skinny

I envied other girls 

But these other girls were usually a lot younger than me

It's a pain in the ass fact that as you get older 

Your body changes

You no longer have the lean frame you had when you were twenty

Your body developes curves and shapes

It's all part of being a woman

For some reason

It is really hard for me to call myself a woman

Because I swear I don't feel like a woman

And don't really look like one

Or dress like one

Or behave like one

In my mind I am still 22

But the fact is that I am a woman

A curved

Shapely woman

And I am beginning to accept that 

As I get older

I see that being attractive has very little to do with physical beauty

And more to do with confidence and personality

Beauty radiates from within

It comes out when we smile

When we laugh

I always find passion attractive

When someone talks about something they love

That can be really attractive

It's not about what a person wears

It's more about what they say

Their behaviour

Their openness

Their honesty

Their kindness

Their sense of humour

The way they treat others

What they believe

Their values

Their ability to laugh

And laugh at themselves

To see the positive in life

A hunger for life

For adventure i

There is so much more than a pretty face

My BMI has now settled at 19

Just about healthy

And surprisinglyHuuoi

I am ok with that

 I know that I am not overweight

Or underweight

I don't feel big or awkward the way I felt this time last year 

And that my friends is a freakin' revelation

I was wondering about you

What do you find attractive?

Do you think thin is still in?

I'd love to know......