The Boy bites back

It was Saturday evening

I had just had s great day with my mum and sister

We climbed a mountain

Then went for dinner

And I was generally feeling really good

Happy to be alive

Grateful to be clean and sober 

Feeling content

And dare I say it, happy?

We had just come home

I sat with the dogs for a while

Plugged in my phone to charge

And settled down in front of the telly with a cup of tea

I was watching The Cube

When my phone rang

Thinking it was my friend who I had just texted

I jumped up to answer it

I looked at the screen

And to my shock and surprise

Saw it was The Boy

I stared at the phone 

Not knowing what the hell to do

My sister saw my face

And asked me what was wrong

I told her nothing

That it was a private number 

I didn't want to tell her who it really was 

And possibly worry her

Needless to say

I didn't answer it

I sat back down

Feeling shook and anxious

Then my phone pinged a message

I checked it

And it was a voice mail

I dialled 171

And listened to the message

It was him

Asking me to ring him

And also telling me that my ex boyfriend was staying with him for a while

And did I want to meet up

I hung up

And felt stunned

Seconds later my phone pinged again

A text message

Asking me to ring him 

If I wanted 'plenty of tea'

I put the phone down

And tried to process this information

I haven't heard from The Boy in quite a while

So this is really out of the blue

I actually had a physical reaction

My heart was racing

As were my thoughts

I felt shakey and unstable

And I would have killed for a smoke just for something to do

It really unsettles me to know that both The Boy and my ex boyfriend are in my area

Having poppy tea

And probably plenty more besides I'm guessing 

I really don't want to know what they are doing

What drugs are available

I would rather not know

And live in blissful ignorance

It's now Monday

Two days since he rang

I haven't texted or rang him back 

It hasn't even been an option 

I know I can't

I have too much to lose

Things are just getting back to normal after the last debacle

I think my mum would lose her mind if I used again

I don't want her to have to go through that again

We moved up here ten years ago to get away from the drug scene

Yes it was a geographical

And no that's not the answer

But it gave us a chance for a fresh start

And gave us breathing space

And time to heal

But now it seems like my old life is catching up with me

And I don't like it

I don't like it at all

So the plan is damage limitation

I haven't told my mum or my sister 

Maybe I should

But I don't want to worry them

I'm seeing Breda this morning so I will talk to her and hatch a plan

I just really don't need this right now

Things are just starting to turn around for me

Abd this is really a test

A test for my willpower

For my resolve

My will to recover

But I feel pretty sure that I won't use

At least I hope I won't 

Healthline 2015

I just found out yesterday 

That andthenshedisappeared has been voted one of the best eating disorder blogs of the year by Healthline

I was super excited to find this out

As it is the third year in a row that I have recieved this honour

My blog will be 3 years old at the end of this month

And it has been an amazing 3 years

Such a rollercoaster of highs and lows

Ups and downs

Victories and defeats

Tears and laughter

Sadness and joy

I am so glad that I documented the last few years

And I have it to look back on

And see how far I've come

I had been reading blogs for a while before I started my own

The very first blogs o read were

Recovering anorexic over on Wordpress

Who is no longer writing under that name

Lou over at my life with ed, and, Mia

Yummy secrets

And 2Medusa

I was so inspired by these strong ladies

That I decided to start writing myself

My blog started off as something bordering on unhealthy

I wrote about fasting 

And trying to lose weight

But over time 

I began to document my life fighting both addiction and disordered eating

And now it is a lot more recovery based

I started my blog because I craved to be around others like me

In my real life my world had shrunk to just me and my illness

I was desperately lonely

Depressed

Anxious

Writing was the perfect medium for me

As I could get the words out at my own pace

And I found writing much easier than speaking

I soon found a real love for it

And I think my writing is improving all the time

This little community we have here on blogger is unique

When I first started writing 

There was a thriving community here

And there was a real buzz about the place

Over the lay year however

So many bloggers have vanished

I wish I knew what has happened to them

These were the ladies who welcomed me in to this community with open arms

Left heartfelt comments on my blog

And we're there for me through the drama that is my life

I miss them

I hope they are ok

So yea

I am delighted that my blog has been recognised

I feel so passionately about helping others like me

To warn and educate younger kids about the dangers of EDs

To think that my blog helps others truly warns my heart

So thank you Healthline

You have made my day......

Queen Maeve's Trail

My mum and my sister and I are planning to do the Camino next year

So we have started to train a little bit

Last week we did the mountain at the back of our house

And yesterday we did Queen Maeve's Trail

Which is up another mountain

It was 2.5km up

And 2.5km down

We made it up and down in two hours a

I didn't find it too bad

But my mum and sister found it tough going

It's only really because I don't smoke anymore

And I walk and swim a lot

If I was still smoking 

There is no way I'd have made it to the top

We made it down just before the rain

And went to Shells cafe for lunch 

We were so hungry

I had a burger and chips

That's how hungry I was

But it was well deserved

And treated us to an ice cream after

Here are some photos from the day.......

Summer clothes post

I picked up some summer clothes over the past few weeks

And I finally feel able to wear them as the weather is heating up

The following clothes are from Fat Face, Roxy and protest

Here they are......

The skinny of it

LIf we look back at weight over the years

And what was considered attractive

Like fashion

It goes through trends

Back in the 60's

Curves and shapes were very much in

Marilyn Monroe who was and still is considered one of the worlds most attractive women

Was a beautiful size 14

Then in the 90's

The rise of the super model took over

And models like Kate Moss 

Made heroin chic sexy

All over the run ways and magazines

Thin was in

Women flaunted their bones like trophies

Sharp cheek bones

And chiseled features were the flavour of the month

And then of course the phenomenon that is size zero

Became an international obsession

The skinnier the better

And that is still popular

But I think positive body image is something that is so important

I saw a show during the week 

Called Plus Sized Wars

It was about the rise and increased popularity of plus size models

Especially on the Internet

Girls like the model and blogger Tess Munster

Who is a size 24

And has a massive following on line

It's people like Tess

Who are bucking the trend of super skinny

And empowering women of all sizes to be proud and confident in their skin

Tess really is a beautiful looking girl

And I can see why she is in such high demand

And even though she is three times the size of an average model

She is still smokin' hit

She also sending out a positive message to young people

That beauty is not a clothes size

Or a number on a scale

It is so much more than that

This show was an eye opener for me

As I am one of the peoe who has been influenced by the media

And although the media did not cause my ED

It most definitely did not help

I used to look at photos of models

Long and lithe limbs

Flawless faces

An impossible standard to reach

But I still compared myself to them

And my confidence took a real battering

 

My own perception of what is attractive has also changed

I used to favour skinny 

The thinner the better

And there was no such thing as too skinny

I envied other girls 

But these other girls were usually a lot younger than me

It's a pain in the ass fact that as you get older 

Your body changes

You no longer have the lean frame you had when you were twenty

Your body developes curves and shapes

It's all part of being a woman

For some reason

It is really hard for me to call myself a woman

Because I swear I don't feel like a woman

And don't really look like one

Or dress like one

Or behave like one

In my mind I am still 22

But the fact is that I am a woman

A curved

Shapely woman

And I am beginning to accept that 

As I get older

I see that being attractive has very little to do with physical beauty

And more to do with confidence and personality

Beauty radiates from within

It comes out when we smile

When we laugh

I always find passion attractive

When someone talks about something they love

That can be really attractive

It's not about what a person wears

It's more about what they say

Their behaviour

Their openness

Their honesty

Their kindness

Their sense of humour

The way they treat others

What they believe

Their values

Their ability to laugh

And laugh at themselves

To see the positive in life

A hunger for life

For adventure i

There is so much more than a pretty face

My BMI has now settled at 19

Just about healthy

And surprisinglyHuuoi

I am ok with that

 I know that I am not overweight

Or underweight

I don't feel big or awkward the way I felt this time last year 

And that my friends is a freakin' revelation

I was wondering about you

What do you find attractive?

Do you think thin is still in?

I'd love to know......

Appointment with Mary

Today was pretty busy

I was asked to open the lunch time meeting today

Which meant that I had to have the room open and ready

Provide tea, coffee and snacks

Mind the money

Put chairs out

And read the preamble

I have to admit

I was really nervous to do this 

And spent all day yesterday fretting about it

Which led to an epic binge/purge session 

That lasted all freakin' day

This morning I was a bit calmer

I had a job to do

And I was determined to do it well

I arrived at the meeting venue at about12 45pm

I arranged the chairs in a circle

Put the kettle on

And generally got the place ready

It felt good 

I felt like I was really part of things

And that I could be trusted to do this job

Another lady came then

And helped me 

One by one people trickled in to the room

And at about 1 05pm

I started to open the meeting

There was a lot of reading to be done

And I was anxious about that

But somehow o got through it

Without letting my anxiety get the better of me

When that was done 

I was the first to share

And we went around the room

Until everyone had shared

After we all said the serenity prayer at the end

I breathed a sigh of relief

I did it

I got through

It felt great

Then this afternoon 

I had an appointment to see Mary

I have seen her in about eight months

So I was really looking forward to seeing her

I settled in the waiting room

And soon I saw her friendly face PPP around the door

I followed her to the room

As soon as I walked in 

I saw the dreaded scales in the corner of the room

My heart skipped a beat

And I quickly looked away

We caught up for a few minutes

I filled her in on what has happened since I saw her

I told her that I am planning to do a course in September

But that I was very nervous about it

Mary told me a story about her going back to college in her forties and getting her degree

And now she is doing her masters

It was really inspiring to hear

She never ceases to amaze me

Mary reminded me of the first time I ever met her three years ago

She said I was so numb

So hopeless 

So battered by my ED

She compared them to now

And said I have come a long way

She sldo spoke about the ED conference that I spoke at two years ago

She said that people still tell her how my speech impacted them

That was so nice to hear

We decided that I would see Mary for eight sessions

And then reassess after that

It's great to have the support for my ED

And I feel like now is a critical time for me

I'm on the verge of being in recovery 

And I want it so badly

So all in all it was a good day

I'm now going to sit down with a hot cup of tea 

And relax......

Eloise Parry - Diet pill death

This is Eloise Parry

A normal 21 year old

Student at university

The world at her fingertips

At least it was 

Until she began taking diet pills

Much of the following is from the BBC website

The mother of a student thought to have taken highly toxic diet pills bought online has appealed to others not to consume them.

Eloise Parry, 21, from Shrewsbury died in hospital on 12 April after becoming unwell.

Police say the tablets were believed to contain dinitrophenol, known as DNP, an industrial chemical.

Eloise's mother Fiona said that it was 'an awful way to die' and people should not take the drug in any quantity.

Glyndwr university student Eloise initially attended A and E after taking more than the recommended dose of tablets.

Her mother told the BBC that the pills appeared to be Eloise's little fix adding, 'this allowed her to achieve her Superskinny appearance but it cost her her life'.

Fiona Parry said she had no idea her daughter was taking the pills until after she died describing them as bad news.

Eloise had walked in to the Royal Shrewsbury hospital herself and there was no great panic until a toxicology report revealed how dire her situation was.

As the drug kicked in it made her metabolism soar. 'They attempted to co her down but they were fighting an uphill battle. She was literally burning up from within, when her heart stopped, they couldn't revive her. She has crashed. Two tablets was a lethal dose and she had taken eight'.

Dinitrophenol or DNP is highly toxic and not intended for human consumption.

An industrial chemical, it is sold illegally in diet pills as a fat burning substance.

Users experience a metabolism boost leading to weight loss but taking even a few tablets can be fatal.

Signs of acute poisoning include nausea, vomiting, restlessness, flushed skin, sweating, dizziness, headaches, rapid respiration and irregular heart beat.

I was shocked but not surprised to hear of Eloise's death

I heard a statistic today that one in ten people have bought diet pills online

I know I have

A few years ago I bought two bottles of ephedrine on line

The recommended dose was to take two a day

But me being me I took about twelve

I thought I was going to die that weekend

I was so ill

Throwing up so much that my body was convulsing.

Never again

But I'm sure many of us have bought pills on line

Anything that promises weight loss is appealing to us

I just hope that this poor girls death serves as a warning to others not to buy diet pills on line.