H is for Honey!

Of course it's for Honey

What else could it be?

A couple of readers said the knew what I was going to post today

Were you right?

So

Let me tell you a bit about Honey

She has many nicknames that I use every day

Honey bunny

The Hunster 

Hunion

The Hunstable 

Sometimes just saying Honey doesn't cut it

Honey is now the grand ol' age of 11

That's 77 in dog years

We got Honey when she was 5 months old 

A tiny little thing 

Cheeky from the start 

I remember the day we went to the shelter 

The lady there told us that she had paired me with an amazing dog

And out came Honey 

To be honest 

I'm wasn't mad about Honey when I first saw her 

I wasn't really into small dogs 

And she was very small 

But 

I trusted the lady that this was a good match 

Web also decided not to change her name 

As it suited her so well

We bundled Honey in to the car 

And headed for home 

Back then 

Before we got Lea 

We had a dog called Leo

Who I also got at the shelter 

He was a beautiful dog 

Fawn coloured

Lean and strong

With such a gentle nature 

Honey came into our lives like a ball of energy 

She followed Leo everywhere 

And slept cuddled in to him 

She was was so cheeky

And claimed her own chair on the first day

Honey had been given in to the shelter by a single mother 

Who had been given Honey as a present 

And being a dog who needed much attention

She couldn't look after Honey 

And so gave her in to the shelter 

I am so glad she did 

As I quickly grew to love her

Honey is bold to the bone 

No matter how many times you tell her not to do something 

Any chance she gets 

She will do it again and again 

Her favourite thing to do is to sneak downstairs to my bedroom 

Go through my bin

And then pan out on my bed

She loves her comfort 

Her bed has two cushions and a blanket 

Her whole life revolves around food

There is something seriously wrong with Honey if she is off her food

Her favourite treat is an pigs ear

And she is quite partial to chicken and beef 

These days she spends a lot of time asleep 

And doesn't always come for a walk 

She goes between her bed and her chair 

And when I go over to her 

Her little tail wags back and forth so fast

Honey almost drowned once 

I had to jump in to the lake to save her 

I wouldn't think twice about doing that 

There's no way I am losing my Honey Bunny

Last year Honeys eye became really infected 

Resulting in one of her eyes being removed 

We were all so worried at the time 

But she made a remarkable recovery 

And is now fighting fit again

Albeit with one eye....

Seriously though 

Honey has my constant companion for the last 11 years 

She has been through a lot with me 

Through out my slips and relapses 

My hospital and treatment admissions 

My highs and lows 

Ups and downs 

She has been at my side 

And I wouldn't believe without her 

When I can't find a reason to get up in the morning 

I get up for her 

When I do t want the leave my house 

I leave to walk her 

She has helped my mental health massively 

Just spending time with her is soothing and relaxing 

She is my best friend 

No doubt 

Here are some photos of Honey for your delectation

Enjoy....

G is for Girl

Im taking a bit of poetic license with the letter G

I really wanted to write about something that happened last night

And using G for Girl was the only way I could do that 

Anyway

On to the post

As you know 

My Mam was diagnosed with osteoporosis recently 

In her hips and spine 

The doctor told her 

That weight bearing exercises would help

So we have been on the look out for suitable courses and classes

We found a Pilates class about half an hour from our house

My Mam rang the lady 

And she sounded very good 

So we put our names down

The first class was last night 

So we donned our work out clothes 

And headed out 

We arrived at the leisure centre just before 8pm

And waited in reception for the previous class to finish 

It was very busy 

Lots of people in and out 

But one particular girl caught my eye 

She was wearing grey leggings 

And a grey top

All her clothes were very tight 

The first thing I noticed 

Was that she was extremely thin

Her hair was white blonde 

And she was so pale she was almost translucent 

I didn't want to stare at her

 my eye kept being drawn to her

After a few minutes wait

It was time for the class

We walked upstairs 

To the room where it was being held 

Grey Girl as I will call her also went up to the room

The instructor greeted us 

She had wild curly hair 

And looked so fit and toned

Like her muscles were rock hard 

It turned out that is was just us three in the class 

There were three large mirrors on the wall

And I kept taking sneaky glances at Grey Girl

The teacher asked us if we do any other exercise 

I told her about the swimming 

And Grey Girl said that she walks and runs 

But that she has two small children 

And didn't always get to do it

She sounded confident 

Sure of herself 

But I couldn't help but wonder if she had an eating disorder 

Grey Girl said that she had done Pilates before 

But it was years ago

This also made me wonder 

As it sounded like she used to exercise 

But had to stop

And now she was just starting again

I don't know

Maybe I am way off the mark

But I've always been able to recognise a fellow sufferer 

Then of course

I felt like a right heffer beside her 

I compared our thighs in the mirror

_UWhere our bones were visible

In fact

I was totally distracted by her during the whole class 

I guess I was triggered by this girl 

This morning 

I asked my Mam if she noticed anything about Grey Girl 

She said that she had noticed how  thin she was

Initially 

I felt jealous of the girl

As sick as that sounds

I wanted to be that thin too

But 

My mother said we looked very similar 

It's going to be hard if she is in the class every week

Maybe I am wrong

Maybe I am presuming without all of the facts

I hope I'm wrong 

I really do 

F is for Free

F is proving to be a tricky customer

The only other word I could think of was food

And I pretty much covered that yesterday 

So free it is 

I wanted to write about being free

As for so long I was a slave to drugs, alcohol and my ED

Having been a heroin addict for years 

I was literally a slave to the drug 

My whole world cantered around the getting and using and finding ways and means to get more 

Because what ever I had 

Was never enough 

I was a greedy addict 

I couldn't control my cravings and urges

I hurt the people I love the most 

But most of all

I hurt myself 

Then came alcohol and prescription meds 

I also abused these to the point where I passed out on the floor 

I was out of control

Out of my mind 

My ED was a similar story

As you know 

I was a serial binger and purger

I literally used to do it all day 

Heck I even woke up in the middle of the night and binged 

It was a nightmare 

Thankfully 

Most of these things are behind me

Yes I am still on methadone and meds 

And yes I still have work to go on my ED recovery 

But I feel the most free that I've felt in the longest time 

Freedom is everything 

Without it

We have nothing 

Now I am free to study

Work 

Travel 

I'm free to wake up in the morning 

And not need a drug to feel normal 

I'm free to walk my dogs 

To go horse riding 

To attend my meetings 

To live my life the way I want

I'm free to travel the world 

As I don't have a criminal

Conviction

And am free to wear what I want 

To pierce my body 

To tattoo my body

Yo listen to the music I want 

Watch the films I want 

Even in this day and age 

There are places in the world where you can't do these things 

Where you don't have the freedom to be yourself 

I guess a lot of the time 

I take my freedom for granted 

I have the freedom of speech too

I can express myself the way I want to

Through words

Writing

Art 

I can express my feeling and thoughts on this blog

That is amazing 

Yes

Freedom is sweet 

And I am grateful to have it in my life today

E is for Eating

And so we are on to the letter E

E for me 

Is eating

Eating is mandatory if you want to live

If you want to have energy

If you want to work

Play 

Work out 

You have to eat if you want the systems in your body to work

And work well

If you want to have healthy nails, skin and hair

Without eating 

Our bodies pretty quickly give up

And we die of starvation and dehydration 

Eating and feeding are one of the first things we learn in life 

As a baby 

Feeding is everything 

But for those of us with eating disorders 

Eating can be a tricky business 

Whether you have anorexia 

Bulimia 

EDNOS

The art of food and eating can be a mine field 

I love my food 

I really love my food

I don't rightly believe anyone who says that they don't enjoy their food

Food and eating are one of life's great pleasures

It brings us together 

To celebrate 

To party

To mourn 

To chat 

To put the world to right over a cuppa and a slice of cake

But my relationship with food has been rocky to say the least 

I love it 

And hate it in equal amounts 

At times over the years 

Food has been my nemesis 

I denied myself food 

Starved my body and mind 

I stuffed it with food 

Then promptly threw it all up 

I over exercised my body with not enough food 

I skipped family occasions becsuse I didn't want to eat 

I ate out of a bin

I ate food straight out of the freezer

I stole food from my family

From my house mates 

From shops and super markets 

Food drove me to the brink of insanity 

Now 

15 years down the ED road 

I have made a kind of peace with food 

I've had to

I don't hate my food anymore 

I don't hate eating 

I don't battle with food the way I used to

Now 

I try to eat three meals and snacks a day

I dont deny myself what I want 

I don't make my body purge as much as I used to 

I enjoy eating now 

I sit at the table now 

I used to eat in front of the TV

Mindlessly shoving food in to my mouth 

Now I take my time

Chat with my family 

It's a social thing also 

One of the most important things in ED recovery 

Is to keep eating 

Even when you don't wany to

When you don't feel like it 

When you are full 

It is so important to eat 

And keep it down of course 

Because once you start skipping meals and snacks 

It is a slippery road back down the rabbit hole

So I do it

I eat 

Because I want to be well

To be healthy 

To have energy 

I eat because for the first time in a long time

I want to live 

Because I now I can see they my life is worth living 

That there is life after an ED

And I do have a chance of happiness as well as health 

Right 

Speaking of eating 

I am off to have a ham toastie with relish

Lip smacking good.....!

D is for Drugs

Ok 

I'm back on track for the A-Z Challenge

Today 

D is for Drugs

As you may know 

In another life 

In a parallel universe 

I was addicted to drugs

In my teens 

I dabbled with all the usual suspects 

And at 18 

I took heroin for the first time 

I was instantly hooked

The thing about drugs 

Is that at first, it's fun

For me

I can still remember fondly the first time I took heroin 

I felt like I had finally found something that helped me be myself 

It gave me confidence 

It helped me feel like I belonged

Like I finally fitted in

I felt untouchable 

Invincible 

Happy 

Like a was in a safe cocoon 

And nothing could hurt me

Of course 

The honey moon period does not last 

And I soon found myself in the murky underworld that is addiction

I spent years trying to recreate that first time I used 

But it was never the same 

Now I was using to not go in to withdrawal

Just to feel normal

I became an expert liar

A proficient thief

And a master manipulator 

I hurt the ones I love the most 

I ripped my family apart 

I left a trail of destruction in my wake 

It was a nightmare 

And I couldn't get out 

For a long time I didn't want to get out

For most of my addiction

I was with my ex boyfriend 

You often see couples in addiction together 

Because no matter how bad things got 

We still had each other 

No matter how low we sank

We still had each other

But for the last couple of years of my addiction 

I was on my own

It was hell 

I was a young girl in a big city 

Alone 

Afraid 

Vulnerable 

I was taken advantage of many many times 

And there was nothing I could do about it 

My addiction was cyclical 

Drugs 

Treatment 

Methadone 

Get clean 

Drugs 

Treatment 

Methadone...

On and on it went 

For a long time 

I didn't want to get clean 

I just wanted the drug 

I spent a lot of time in treatment and hospital 

But always relapsed spectacularly

I was even frog marched over to London 

To do a detox

And yo have any opiate blocker implant fitted 

Which meant if I used 

It would have no effect 

It was supposed to last six months 

But for me 

It lasted a lot longer 

And it didn't stop me using 

I just used other drugs 

My last slip was last year 

Remember The Boy 

And the poppy tea?

That lasted about a month

But caused so much hurt to my family 

I never used to count my clean time 

But I have started now 

And February 14th was day one 

As far as drugs are concerned 

I am quite stable 

As I wrote yesterday

I still get horrendous cravings every now and then 

But I now know how to handle them

And I know they will pass 

I can't say I will never use again 

As I don't know what the future holds

But I do know that I won't use today 

I will stay well today 

I will be a good person today

When ever I tell someone about my past addictions 

People are really surprised 

I guess I am not your typical addict 

And that helped keep me out of trouble over the years 

I suppose everyone has a story to tell 

And this is mine 

Day off

I only realised last night 

That Sunday's are not included in the A-Z challenge

I did C yesterday 

So I will take today off

And just do a regular post

I'm just out of the doctors 

And sitting in the pharmacy waiting for my meds

Today's topics included 

Horse riding 

Michaela MC Collumb, the Irish girl caught smuggling drugs back in 2013 who has just been released from prison in Peru

More of which later 

And methadone 

For the last few weeks 

My doctor has been talking about reducing it 

And every week I've come up with a different excuse not to

But today 

I was all out of excuses 

And so it was reduced from 26mls - 24mls 

Not a lot I know 

But as the amount gets smaller and smaller 

I worry 

Not that I ever notice the drop

It's more psychological than anything 

I am now almost at the point I was two years ago 

Back in 2014 

I was down to 22mls

And I panicked

So asked my doctor to increase it

He increased it to 34mls

And it's only now 

Two years later 

That I am almost back down to 24 mls 

As you know 

I have been on methadone for 11 years now

Every morning for the last decade 

I have taken it first thing every morning

Every Monday I have seen my doctor 

It has become part and parcel of my life

Just another part of my daily routine 

I can't lie 

I am nervous and anxious and afraid to think about life without methadone

Even though that is a long way off

It still scares me 

I would much rather come off my tablets first 

But I have to trust that my doctor knows what he is doing 

I guess I need to learn 

That I can handle life without relying on a substance 

Because up until  now 

I have always believed that

That I am not strong enough to handle life on life's terms

I guess I need to see for myself that I can manage without a drug or a drink

I saw Breda this morning also 

I was very close to cancelling 

As I didn't really feel like going 

But I know when I start thinking like that 

I am in dodgy territory 

So I went 

I told her what's been happening recently

About the course I have put my name down for 

Which is the local women's centre

It's communications and IT

And it runs two afternoons a week for a year 

It sounds like a great course 

And the women's centre is a lovely place

So the next thing on my agenda 

Is to find out about the job

And if it's still happening 

I am on a disability payment 

And can only work a certain amount of hours each week

So I need to find out about that 

Hopefully I will be able to do everything 

But if I have to stop something

I'm afraid it will be the job

But I still have some time to sort things out 

So watch this space 

It was great to see Breda 

And to tell her about all the positive things that are happening

I feel like I am the most stable that I have been in years

Even my ED is somewhat under control

The purging is at a minimum 

I'm not weighing myself 

And more importantly not caring what I weigh 

My clothes fit 

My skin, hair and nails are healthy 

I feel good 

Neither underweight or overweight 

I'm sleeping well

I wake up in the morning excited for the day

I feel alive 

I feel positive and hopeful for the future 

I feel like i am living 

Rather than existing 

Enjoying life 

Rather than enduring it

Life is good 

And that is an amazing thing to be able to say 

So 

It's onwards and upwards from here 

Things are really coming together for me 

The jigsaw pieces are falling in to place 

And the picture that is my life is becoming clear 

With help from a small army of help and supporters 

I am finding my way 

Finding out who I am

What I am all about 

I feel like I might have a shot at having a good life 

A happy life 

That's all I want 

To feel ok in my own skin

To be able to lay my head down at night 

Knowing I did my best that day to be a good person

And not hurt myself or anyone else 

I am slowly but surely putting my life back together 

I really think I can do this 

I think I can be a good and honest person 

I've come a long way 

And it's taken years to finally figure out what I want 

And where I want to go

But I am getting there 

Great strides start with baby steps 

And my baby steps are happening 

One at a time 

C is for Cravings

Cravings are something that I deal with on a daily basis

Being a former drug addict

A former alcoholic

A former smoker

And a former anorectic 

Cravings are part and parcel of my life

They can hit you when you least expect it

And I can be triggered by almost anything 

Tinfoil 

Spoons 

Certain smells 

7up

I could go on and on

The first major thing I gave up was heroin

That was no mean feat

And to this day 

Is the most difficult thing I've given up

And overcome 

But even now 

After being away from the drug for quite a while

I still get cravings 

I can't watch anything about drugs in films or on tv

Can't listen to certain music

And just being in Dublin is one massive trigger

I also don't go back to the town I grew up in

As it too is a trigger in itself

A craving is a funny thing

Whether it's a craving for heroin

Or vodka 

Or a smoke 

Or a craving to lose weight

They all start off the same way

With a longing to escape

And I am someone who loves to escape

I get bored easily

And if I'm not doing something that captures my attention

Like dancing or my dogs or horse riding 

I find that my mind wanders

The devil makes work for idle hands and all that

They say that a relapse happens long before you pick up the drug

It happens when you begin to let things slip and slide

When you stop going to meetings

When you start isolating 

When you start making excuses 

Good recoveries are made on good foundations 

If you don't have a good foundation 

Your recovery will inevitably crumble and fall

But how ever your good and solid your recovery 

You will encounter cravings 

It's nigh on impossible to avoid them

They can hit you like a smack in the face  

You might be thinking about something completely innocent 

And before you know 

You are reminiscing about the good ol' days 

And wondering how soon you can get to your nearest connection

The trick about cravings 

Is to catch them before you do anything stupid 

As soon as you are aware of it

To do something about it 

So you don't run away with it in your mind

There are many things you can do before a craving turns in to a slip 

Talk to someone 

Get to a meeting 

Ring a friend/member/sponsor 

Think about what will happen if you do use 

It is possible to stop yourself 

I am off cigarettes about 20 months 

However 

I still get horrendous cravings for a smoke 

I know now that they only last minutes 

Sometimes just seconds 

And I know if I just hold on 

It too will pass 

Are any of you doing the A-Z challenge?